Boundaries? What does that mean?

I love this class I am teaching right now.  It teaches the most powerful meditations I have ever practiced. Did they change my life when I started practicing them?  YES!  Do things get stagnant in my life when I quit using them?  YES!  Am I resistant to doing them?  Not as much as I use to be!  I guess why is that I found that things are hard for my life and business when I quit doing them.  So integrating this positive habit seems the most likely answer to keeping my energy system clear and clean, keeping my business healthy, and moving out sticky or negative energy from my emotional body.  I guess the most rewarding thing about teaching this class is watching people who have used this practice for years, really move and heal things in their life.  Now does this style of meditation work for everyone?  Not always!  I do think, with any practice, it has to feel right for the practitioner, but more importantly it has to be practiced.  Not once a month, or a week, or every other day.  It has to be integrated into your daily life.  Like walking, breathing, or drinking water.

The primary goal of these techniques is to create healthy boundaries for yourself. Most people think of boundaries is through physical touch.  That is one way to look at boundaries.  You are at the grocery store and someone gets to close to you in line.  That is a physical boundary that is current in our culture.  You stay away from other peoples aura or energetic space.  What I am talking about is emotional and spiritual boundaries.  How we create friendships, and our thoughts around people.  So having clear thoughts and communication with others is one way to have emotional and spiritual boundaries with others.  This sounds easy, but this takes practice!  

Our energy is meant for us to use.  It is not meant for others.  A common habit of sensitives and healer types is to merge energy with those we care about or are worried about. We do this through giving unwanted advice, through giving our attention to someone else’s problems in an obsessive or compulsive way, for instance when we can’t fall asleep at night because of someone else’s problems that we are trying to solve. We think we are helping others when we give unsolicited advice, however this energetically puts your energy on them. A teacher once told me this is called the Out of Control Healer.  So desperate to help everyone, but not realizing we are only helpful when someone asks for our help. I still find myself teaching this lesson, and learning it on different levels all the time!  So boundaries are not always about protecting yourself from someone who is out to get you, it can also be about you maintaining healthy energy exchange with others.

Energy transference is more common than you might think, people can leave energy behind when we have a disagreement with them, a verbal or physical fight. However, we also transfer energy to people with our thoughts and feelings whether they are conscious or unconscious. Thoughts of anger towards someone who cut off while driving to work. Jealous or envious feelings from a friend or coworker that may never be spoken out loud. Worry or concern for you by a mother or child. These are all forms of every day energy transference. Many cultures teach about this as well, the evil eye or cursing someone with negative thoughts. Boundaries, that are regularly maintained, clear out this energetic debris from other people, leaving us clean and clear in our own energy.
 
And then, sometimes because of intense circumstances, such as trauma, we may put up stronger boundaries than we need.  Not letting anyone in. Perhaps you lost a loved one to death or the end of a relationship, or may you watched a loved one fall prey to addiction. Perhaps you were a victim of abuse or a crime. These are definitely situations that need boundaries, but maybe not such strong boundaries. Building too strong of a boundary does not allow us to heal. This meditation technique, practiced regularly, allows us to clear our own painful energy over time and results in healthy relationships with ourselves and the people in our lives.

So energetic boundaries are not tangible, but wow when they are put in place they seem to really change how we move through this earthly plane.  So the question this time is, in what ways do you give too much of yourself? In what ways have you cut yourself off from experiencing what life has to offer because trauma caused you to create big, strong boundaries?  How could you access your own energetic boundaries to live a more balanced and healthy life?  Class is start each season!  Come learn ways to live a fuller and more balanced life with healthy boundaries!!!